A couple weeks ago now I shared with you a real date my husband and I went on to a local indoor trampoline part and how doing something beyond just the typical dinner out changed everything for us. Today I will be sharing yet another fun date we went on this past summer. You're going to want to put this one in your back pocket.
When our marriage was new (and I still sometimes do this unknowingly) I fell into the trap of feeling unsatisfied in my relationship because of what I saw from other people's marriages through social media. How many of you have done this? I can't tell you how many times I unfairly compared my marriage to other's thinking, "Why isn't our relationship as fun and carefree like the one I just saw the other day?" Or, "Why can't my husband be as romantic as that woman's husband?" The bad thing about doing that is that we are not those people. Our relationship and marriage will look very different than that of others because we are different than them. Comparison quickly stole my joy and that was not at all fair on my husband. I am called to love him and that means love him for exactly who is IS, not for who I somedays wish he was. Amen?
I realized, that because he isn't the best at surprising me with a fun planned date (bless his heart) and that dinner alone just wasn't sparking much of anything for us (which is totally okay by the way), instead of being frustrated over it and wishing he was more like the husbands I saw on social media, I could step up and come up with these fun dates on my own to bring some much needed excitement and adventure back into our relationship, especially after pouring into our daughter every single day. We needed that.
This is what Thursday date nights are all about now and my hope for these posts is to bring you transparency, honesty, and some creative date ideas to keep it interesting. We don't get too many nights together away from our daughter, so when we do you better believe we're going to make the best of it.
So here it goes.
DATE #2: THE LIVING ROOM at The FOSHAY in Minneapolis, MN
Foshay. Haha. Just as fancy as it sounds.
Date night had arrived (which landed on a Tuesday this week instead of our typical Thursday) and we still hadn't figured out what we were going to do. This night I had my mom come to our home in Minneapolis so we could do something in the cities. My parents live in the suburbs so we have to get uber creative when we go that way. Ha! But of course, this night we found ourselves sitting in our driveway having no idea at all what we were going to do. All of a sudden Minneapolis had nothing interesting to offer us. Some nights an idea comes to mind right away, other nights we just stare at each other and start laughing because honestly our minds just run blank. So instead of wasting our precious minutes away sitting outside of our home, we decided to just start driving and see if we could think of anything along the way. Which honestly made us feel young and free again driving around without a purpose or destination in mind. Oh how dreamy that sounds these days.
We don't live far from downtown Minneapolis, so we headed that way and all of a sudden I thought of The Foshay tower. It's a hotel (The W) and if you take the elevator to the very top there is an observation deck which is SO incredible around sunset (which was exactly the time we would be up there at). I wish I could tell you this is what we ended up doing, but of course when we got there it was one of the two days it's closed. What? Go figure. But, that didn't matter because we were together on an adventure downtown and there was still the bar downstairs. If you are from the Twin Cities and you have never been to The Living Room, you need to put this on your list (and go on a day the observation deck is open ;P). It's a classy modern bar that makes you feel like you are hanging out in the living room of a millionaire.
After the day both of us had, this is exactly what we needed: a quiet relaxing evening cuddled up in one of those tall back leather chairs next to the fire, Jaime sipping a beer and me sipping a Coca Cola (what?), haha. Of course I forgot my ID. "Yes bartender, just a Coca Cola for me please in one of the fanciest bars in Minneapolis." At least it was in a cocktail glass. We had a good laugh over that one while trying to figure out what all the fancy people in that bar did for a living. One would think this was a total date night fail, but it's exactly what we ended up needing that evening. After our fancy drinks we took a walk around the city and ended up getting some appetizers at 'Marin' and then stopped at good old Target for a bathroom break and some ice-cream.
By the way, the Living Room is already on our list for a future date. I am imagining an overnight stay at the W with a trip up to the observation deck, dinner around town dressed up all fancy, a glass of wine and beer at the Living Room, and ROOM SERVICE the next morning!